Actually I feel somewhat responsible. When Quixtar started I was one of the first distributors. I brought 90% of a down line with me from another MLM in August of 1999. The premise was the Amway ‘Kids’ where starting a newer, better, hipper MLM and was just using Amway as a starter so we could all sign people up before it’s September ’99 kick off. I was told that it was a way the children of the Amway empire could later avoid inheritance tax. I don’t know if that is true or not. It was supposed to be an ultra high tech state of the art web mall. The Amway model made it very hard to make money. In fact I would have made almost double in the company I left, that no longer exists any more. I did make a small living but only because I was literally 3rd from the top. My sponsor and his sponsor are long gone. One went full time with motivational speaking and the other consults for an MLM. I had just turned 18. I dropped out of High School at 16 to become a MLM millionaire. When everyone found out the big lie and realized that we were all duped into joining Amway I fled. I never talked to anyone in my down line ever again. I did receive a few threats. I had to start my whole life over again. I started waiting tables in a four star restaurant and made more money than I did in any MLM and I didn’t have to lie about it either. When I was sick of waiting tables I went to Kelly Services. Because of my MLM experience they gave me HR related work and I was able to build a short career out of that before I got married and had kids. Now that my babies are not exactly babies any more I want to get back out into the work force. Guess what? All my experience doesn’t count for anything. All my mom friends are heading back into the workforce and the ones with the master degrees are having a lot better luck than I would. Experience expires, education lasts forever. I would be willing to talk your son down from the ledge. I know what it’s like to have big dreams and to spend all your time trying to make them happen. The reality is I didn’t want all I thought I had wanted. I have a good life now. I don’t fly all over the world in privet jets but who wants to travel with 3 kids anyway?
First of all – I agree with Hal – the sooner he hits rock bottom, the sooner he might begin to see that the AMO is only sucking his wallet dry. Depending on where you live, sleeping in a car isn’t the worst thing in the world. If he’s resourceful, he’ll seek a roommate. He can sign up with a Temp Agency. He can apply at McDonald’s. He has options.
Of course, kids that age often like to “flop”. That what my husband calls it: like a goldfish who jumps out of its bowl, and lies flopping, helpless, until you pick it up and put it back in the bowl.
Anyway, with 7 teens, we had a “no flopping” rule; it basically said “we expect you to get yourself out of your own jams”.
Helping your son in whatever manner, is only enabling him in his “addiction”. It’s Tough Love time – and I know that sounds harsh, but *life* is harsh. There are Rules to be followed – like “respect your employer” and “pay your bills”. “Don’t get sucked into a scam” is another good rule, but one that younger folks often don’t understand, which is why the AMOs like to prey on the college kids 🙁
I suppose my rules sound harsh to some folks – all I can offer is 7 gainfully-employed adults, many of them married and have children; and who are decent and caring members of our society. And they still like me 😉
I was in the exact same situation with my parents. They got in way too deep with an AMO and ended up losing the house I was raised in. I was the only one of my family in a position to help my parents at the time. My parents moved in with me but under some conditions. 1-NO BUSINESS DEALINGS WITH AMWAY. No money spent on the business at all. If they can’t afford rent, they cannot afford their “business” and my dime was not paying for it. Their AMO was not to call the house or come into my house. I made them have a plan to get solvent again and budget to get back on their feet. It was tough and there were times they were not happy with me but what could they do, I held all the cards.
Anyway, they did what they needed to and helped themselves up. They are doing much better now so I am thankful. Just stay strong and keep to the rules. Letting your son move in if he needs help is not your job if he will not take steps to help himself, but if he is willing to do what he needs to, I would help him as long as he understands that. Good Luck and keep in touch with us.